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Friday, June 1, 2007

Stupid Rainbow Family....


This obviously isn't my family... this is Angelina Jolie with her family. Why in the world would I post about Angelina Jolie?

Many of my friends know that my brother and his wife were unable to conceive children of their own. After years of no success, they decided to adopt internationally.

My neice was adopted when she was 6 months old. She is of Vietnamese/Cambodian descent. Not much is known about her birth parents, she was taken from the hospital and placed in an orphanage. Her mom had abandoned her...

Knowing that she was facing possible serious medical problems, by brother and his wife agreed to adopt this little girl. As time would tell, my niece was diagnosed with a form of cerebral palsy. Not that any of that is important. She is my neice. She is a very special little girl. A joy to be around. Little Miss Personality.

A friend of mine made a comment on a message board today. A comment that hurt me deeper than I realized. We were debating adoption. She would choose to adopt a child similar to herself and her husband. Fair enough.

The comment that came next, however, I neither expected nor understand:
"Personally I think Angelina looks pretty stupid with her rainbow of a family."

Angelina's son is from Vietnam. Angelina and her husband are white. Sound familiar?

How in the world anyone can say Angelina looks stupid with her rainbow family is beyond my comprehension. What does that say about my brother? Does he look stupid with his little rainbow family?

My heart aches. This is not the type of post I wanted to my blog to consist of... but along this journey there is pain.... pain for the insensitive remarks my friends sometimes make... but more pain for my wonderful, beautiful little neice and her rainbow family and the comments and stares she will certainly have to endure growing up in America.

6 comments:

Corey~living and loving said...

oh dear....this makes me sad too. I can certainly feel your heartbreak over this very inappropriate comment. I am very sorry this happened. I am also sad, that unfortunately yes your brother and his beautiful family will hear comments like that. It isn't fair.....I dont' really know what to say, other than I am really sorry. Wish I could give you a hug!

Lori- Fairytales & Margaritas said...

I am very sorry that this was said and very sorry that you are hurt. I completely understand. I wonder if that's what people think when they see my biracial children.

Laura said...

I'm so sorry this happened, Amanda! Families with adopted children are among the most beautiful families there are. And your niece is a gorgeous, precious little girl who likely brings just as much light and life to your family as you all have brought to her...if not more! Lots of hugs...

Helen said...

I think rainbows are beautiful. (((HUGS))) The comment was hurtful and inappropriate but an real insight as to what type of people are in our world.

Helen said...

Oh and off topic........were you ever planning to add me as a blog friend? lol

Nichole said...

Rainbows are beautiful, and symbols of hope, love, and beauty. The world needs rainbows. ((((HUGS))))